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Not Suffering Enough
Often in my personal and professional life I hear the phrases “Other people have it worse”, “It’s not that bad”, “I’m just having a moment”, “I don’t really have any problems” and “Nothing bad has really happened to me”. After further discussion, we determine while those phrases may be true there is a struggle going on inside needing to be validated and worked through. We tend to minimize the struggles we have in our... Read More
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Do Not Apologize
While there are indeed worse offenses than declaring an unnecessary apology, what makes the behavior potentially damaging is the cause and effect.  We often state an unnecessary apology out of caring too much what other people think or putting their feelings above our own.  Consequently, others may view constant apologizing as a sense of weakness or lack of confidence.  So, by all means, apologize when it's necessary - but stop saying sorry when you have no reason to.  ... Read More
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Stress affects people in all different ways – or at least, different people respond to it very differently. For some, it rolls off quickly, and they rebound in a reasonable amount of time. For others, it “sticks” and it takes much longer to recover, if ever. This is because people’s mental “resilience” varies enormously, which itself is based on both genes and environment. For people who aren’t so good at coping with stress, it may be that ... Read More
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It's is not always easy - to self love.  It can be a process for many.  If you find it difficult... Here are a few ways to help with the process.  Let yourself heal, let yourself love what makes you who you are.  1.  Start a journal. No one’s saying you have to pen the next great novel, but one of the best ways to get to know yourself is writing down your thoughts. Even if you only write a few sentences a day, you never know what you might learn about yours... Read More
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Fall In Love With Yourself
Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first. Still, at first it sounds ridiculous. We usually think of falling in love as a process specific to dating, but in reality, we fall in love in so many different ways and with so many different things. We fall in love with people, places, literature, art, and even states of mind. There is no wrong way to love, other than to not love at all. The problem becomes our own familiarity with ourselves. We often become so complacent t... Read More
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We would like to be your partner and assist you to get through your struggles, and heal from them. With our Time Honored Methods we offer several approaches based on an objective assessment of your needs in conjunction with your goals. Together, we can identify issues, develop plans, and find the best versatile solutions for you that will put you back in charge of your life. Let us help you to regain a sense of well-being and to bring happiness back into your life. Anxie... Read More
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A Time To Be Thankful
It’s all too easy to moan isn't it: about the weather, about the state of the country, about our jobs and even our general lot in life? But there are times when something happens to make you stop and think and realize that you have a lot or (or maybe just a little) to be thankful for. That “stop & think” moment could be the loss of someone you care about, the news that someone you know has lost their job, seeing an advert or news feature on television that reminds you wha... Read More
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Violating The Boundaries
You can't make people respect your boundaries. Unfortunately, people who are manipulative, narcissistic, and have a poor sense of self tend to repeatedly violate personal boundaries. One of the biggest challenges that people have with boundaries is figuring out what to do when someone repeatedly violates them. There isn’t a one-size fits all answer to the question. Variables to consider...Who is violating your boundaries? Is the boundary violator willing to change?  ... Read More
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The Anxious Child
Parents tend to say things in an earnest and loving effort to help when a child is anxious. If you have an anxious child, it is not always easy to understand. A child doesn't know exactly how to express the way they feel.   Here are a few phrases that can help when the anxiety is high as an alternative to what a typical response might be:  Mommy said, "It's going to be ok. Trust me." Try this: Respond to your child's nervous system first. Help them calm down ... Read More
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Kids lie more often and more effectively when punishment is on the line.  Because so many children go through a lying phase, or more than a phase, I want to talk about ways to consider and deal with dishonesty. Why does lying get under our skin so terribly?  As parents we know that honesty is critical to healthy relationships, to having integrity, and to resolving problems.  Dishonesty can land you in a heap of interpersonal, academic, legal, and/or professional trouble both in... Read More
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